October 10, 2014

Relaxation and Restoration, Nelson Style

Its been a brilliant two weeks off...  badly needed and greatly appreciated.

I stocked up the boys...

and headed off to see Libby and Davy in Nelson.

It was the first trip since Rowie left them.... so Ollie did a great job of filling some of the spot.

We filled the days with food, shopping and a lot of fun.

Kaiteriteri Beach

Giant Lamingtons from Motueka Bakery..... 
Between the shopping, we went up to the Motueka Sunday Market and the lamingtons from the bakery, on to Kaiteriteri Beach, and then home via Mapua where we lunched at the Jester House Cafe - a well deserved winner of the NZ Cafe of the year.  As it says on their website
Perfect on a winter's day with steaming a hot bowl of Tasman Bay seafood chowder enjoyed by the blazing open fire to warm you through.
and that is exactly what we did as there was a cool wind despite the sunny clear day.

Lovely old house at Jester House cafe

Feeding the eels at Jester House Cafe - with the help of the resident cat
The Aporo stream is the natural habitat of the New Zealand long finned eel (tuna). The tame eels come every day from September until May to be hand feed.  

We visited Royce Mcglashen Pottery  and had tea at the beautiful and historic Melrose House...

and did i mention the shopping? Luckily the extra 10 kg of weight was easily covered by the large suitcase I took, and the new silver, hard shell, multi wheeled cabin bag, affectionately known as "The Puppy" as it follows you everywhere.

Thinking of puppies, we went to the World of Wearable Arts gallery showing the 2013 entries - some amazing stuff.
I loved the costume made with masses of Qwerty Keys - and it had a little dog to match...

The other costumes were also amazing - 

Photos cant do them justice....

Home to a lovely sunny week and many birthdays to celebrate.  Phoebe is six tomorrow!!!  Party party party.... then family get together for James' birthday on Sunday. Poppy recently turned four too....

Loving the garden springing into life... the blossom is so thick in the driveway and the white wisteria is budding over the sleep out....

Taking time to savour the break and appreciate the good times - an essential part of the self care process. We all need to do it - the last two weeks have been a time of great sadness and loss for the veterinary world as another wonderful vet is taken by depression and suicide.  Dr Sophia Yin's death is a tragedy and a huge loss to the profession - her work on low stress handling has been a breath of fresh air across the world.
Her legacy will continue from her website http://drsophiayin.com/about

Tributes have poured in ....
Dr. Yin's passing has been a cataclysmic event in the animal-training and veterinary community and is sparking some important conversations about the prevalence of depression among those who care for animals (Jessica Dolce wrote a great post on "compassion fatigue"), and specifically among vets. Veterinarians are believed to be four times more likely to commit suicide than people in other professions. One recent study found that two thirds of vets surveyed had suffered from clinical depression; of that group, only a third had sought professional help. 
Some good advice for vets 

You deserve the same level of compassionate care that you give your clients. You do not need to be perfect or give until you are empty in order to earn your self-care. Give to yourself with as much enthusiasm and skill as you give to others.
You can do that by getting help. If you are suffering from compassion fatigue symptoms or you are struggling with anxiety, depression, or anything else: seek professional help. The cruel twist of depression is that its very nature makes reaching out for help difficult. So get help early.

I don’t know what was happening in Dr. Yin’s life, but I am so sorry that she was struggling and felt such despair. She meant so much, to so many. She was making a real difference in the world and she will be missed. My heart goes out to her friends and family. I hope they take some comfort in knowing that Dr. Yin was deeply respected, loved, and treasured by people and their pets around the world.
You made a difference Dr. Yin. Thank you.


  1. Sorry to hear of Dr. Yin's suicide. That's the terrible thing about clinical depression - too many times, the sufferers manage very well to conceal their condition from others, whereas those who always moan and whine about how "stressed out" and "unhappy" they are, and how "unfair" life is treating them, are usually not the ones who really go through with it and kill themselves. All they want is attention, while a clinical depressed person wants anything BUT attention. Very, very sad.

    On the other hand, your post is very uplifting - the beautiful spring flowers alone make me smile! The tea things on the table at Melrose house look wonderful, and I think I'd rather like a lamington - first time ever I've come across the term.

    1. I looooove lamingtons, particularly with cream. A real treat....

  2. A sad and yet, at the same time, happy and uplifting post Fi. I think Meike has put her finger right on it when it comes to depression. I wonder whether people with a depressive nature sometimes have a tendency to go into caring vocations.

    On a detailed point I've been to Motueka several times and I've been trying to recall it. I must look it up or try and find my photos.

    1. I've suddenly remembered Motueka: silly me forgetting that.

  3. GB you are probably right... Caring requires high empathy and greter emotional involvement yet nobody is publicising high suicide rates in vet nursing. I know they have fairly high rates of anxirty and depression. Vets seem to bring something else into the equation... High achievers, perfectionism, high debt levels and frequent dealing with death are the main concerns. I wonder if it equates at all to human medicine?

    I'm glad you remember Motueka. My son Liam spent last year there training as a helicopter pilot...was nice to visit it.


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